How it all started

It all started back when the wife (girl friend at the time) and I were young, I can’t even remember how many years ago it was but if I had to guess I’d say at least 8.  We lived in a really small town with no tv so to pass most of our time we spent a lot of time in the bedroom. We both had/have fairly open minds so we weren’t scared to try new and exciting things in bed.

It all started with light bondage, we would take turns being tied up or using fuzzy hand cuffs. It didn’t take long for me to realize I really enjoyed being the one to give up control. I would be restrained and she would have her way with me. It usually resulted in a long tease as fore play than end with an orgasm in some form.

From there I turned to the internet and soon found out about femdom/ FLR. I knew about dominatrix before but not femdom. Reading about that and the activities that came along with it really perked my interests. I figured hey I’ll give up more control outside the of the bedroom if it gives me more of what I like inside the bedroom.  I shared my new found knowledge with her and she agreed to become my mistress or Ma’am to me now.

A few simple small rules were made to start with like properly addressing her as Ma’am, helping out around the house more often, asking permission for certain thing  and her most important rule was no more taking care of my own sexual wants.  The last rule was a big change for me, I had been doing that since I was a teen so it was going to be a hard habit to kick.  Looking back now I did play with myself way too much and there was times it resulted in Mistress being robbed out of play time because I had already taken care of my wants earlier that day. She had now taken over my pleasures but chastity wasn’t into play yet.

As our adventure (that is what we called it) continued I would spend more time on the internet researching and that’s when I learned about chastity. I use the term learned  loosely, sure I knew what the meaning of chastity was but I thought chastity belts were a mid evil thing. I had noticed it mentioned in my previous internet searches of femdom but didn’t realize it was practiced  to that extent.  I soon discovered that chastity belts were still around, along with chastity cages in several different styles.

At first I was in shock that these devices were around and actually being used, I thought who in their right mind would agree to wear one of those. But the more I read and researched the more I became intrigued. Thoughts of giving up the control over my own manhood soon excited me. I was curious on what it would feel like to wear one of those devices.

Well Mistress already laid down the no playing with myself rule along with no touch it either if I wasn’t in the bathroom so I began to plant the seed in her head of chastity. I’d say stuff like “well you can’t physically stop me from touching it”. I know topping from the bottom right but I didn’t want her to know I wanted it at the time. The whole femdom thing was new to us and I didn’t want to seem like I was pushing to new boundaries too fast, she might of thought I was a total freak and gave up on the adventure. So after a week or two of dropping seeds into her head when the opportunities seemed right she finally said “yes I can, it’s called a chastity device”.  She had been doing some research too on femdom actives. We had a talk about it and both agreed that it wouldn’t hurt to try out and “ play” around with chastity and it would probably be for her best to help get her use to her new dominant role. Mistress figured it would be more of a toy that got played with from time to time, jokes on me it didn’t take long for her to realize it was actually tool for her not a toy!